Let the scripture set the standard of a good wife and a mother .
Proverbs 31:10-31 says
A wife of noble character who can find ? She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good , not harm all the days of her life.
She selects wool and flax and work with eager hand
She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar
She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls.
She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she hold the distaff and grasp the spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy
When it snows, she has no fear for household for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
She makes covering for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land
She makes linen garments and sells them
She is clothed with strenght and dignity ; she can laugh at the days to come .
She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue
She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness
Her children arise and call her blessed ; her husband also, and he praise her
Many women do noble things , but you surpass them all
Charm is deceptive , and beauty is fleeting ; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Give her the reward she has earned , and let her works bring praise at the city gates
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